A majority of people that spend time talking, first, on online dating, seem to be disappointed. The majority have a wonderful set of emails and phone calls and think they have met the love of their life. .. but when they meet, the chemistry is not there and both parties are twice as hurt by the “brick wall effect” because they have already created expectations and wishful thinking via advance
communication. Most people see two different people when they look at a 2D photo of a person and then see the real person in 3D. The human brain does not function in 2D for the attraction process. The brain wants a 3D image and it will fill in place-holders, in your imagination, with “impossible to live-up-to” mental images of Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie if you have not yet met in real life.
In reality, everybody actually makes up/or changes their mind about physical attraction, in the first 5 minutes. Most people find each other adorable on hours of phone calls but only 1% of the people said they had chemistry in person and vice versa. That has been the story that most other users on online dating have posted in tens of thousands of blogs so this appears to be the consensus.
One would be fighting an uphill battle if they try to force a computer system to act human by using it for the initial interaction. You have to meet in the real world to not get screwed up by the computer and its process. One has to get out of the digital/chat room world as fast as they can and into the tangible real world of touch, vision and the other senses. Another reason for meeting soon is that people blog that a large number of people they start emailing with, suddenly cancel future meetings because someone else they were emailing with met them sooner. In many cases, when they have to book the first meeting a week or more out, they will contact you the day before and cancel the meeting because they starting seeing others they dated within that week delay.